Secrets to a less stressed lifestyle of a step mother...

Update:

The reason I have not posted on here much is because of something called disengaging. I am no longer going to have my emotions controlled by a lunatic and her child.

1)I am not going to any sporting events. My weekdays were spent dreading Saturdays, wondering what the b*tch was going to do or say. I now go shopping or stay home and enjoy the peace and quiet. When my stepson asks me why I don't go, I tell him it is because his mother cannot act like a respectable decent human being and I am not going to let her ruin my weekends. I tell him i'm sorry and I will watch the video when they get home.

2)I no longer worry myself over whether or not he is bathing or brushing his teeth. He just got pissed at me all the time and told his mother how mean I was, so now if his teeth rot and fall out it is because his MOTHER and FATHER failed him, NOT me. It is NOT MY PROBLEM.

3)When he leaves his dirty clothes all over the bathroom I don't stress out I just take them right past the laundry room and I throw them in his room. I only wash what HE has carried into the laundry room. I don't gripe about his room being a mess anymore, when company comes over I shut the door. When he has no clean clothes then maybe he will decide to clean his room.

I am now am less stressed.

The custody hearing is in December and I am not concerning myself with it or going to the hearing. If the judge wants to give him back because he tells lies about me then good riddance. I will then have a very nice sewing room! And if you want to know how happy I am lately go here.

It's my birthday.

Copied from my other blog "Looking into the Sun"

Libra

Birth Date and Time:

October 18, 1966 8:00 AM

Birth Location:

Des Moines, Iowa

Sun Sign:

Libra

Traditional

Libra Traits

Diplomatic and urbane (Maybe this is why I got elected?)
Romantic and charming (Oh yes I definitely think so. I think i'll go light some candles and wait for my husband to come home. He'll probably say "WTF did you forget to pay the light bill?!" he's kind of brutish like that.)
Easygoing and sociable (Well if my husband making the crack about the electric bill when i'm trying to be romatic doesn't piss me off, i'd have to say i'm easy going. As for sociable. I do hit the local cafe' every moring to chit chat with the locals before I go to work. It's never too early to get started on the campaign trail) Idealistic and peaceable (Idealistic. Hmmm... Not compatible with reality: quixotic, romantic, starry-eyed, unrealistic, utopian, visionary. Sometimes I guess I am. Like I really believe that someday my husbands crazy ex wife will leave us alone.)

On the dark side....

Indecisive and changeable (Definitely can't make my mind up about anything. Every month when I do the council agenda I change the font because CANNOT decide what looks better)
Gullible and easily influenced (I have to check everything out because I believe almost anything people tell me. I just assume EVERYONE is honest like me :)
Flirtatious and self-indulgent (I do flirt, but wouldn't go to far. I am a self indulgent CAKE EATER!!)

LIKES

• The finer things in life (Can you say professional pedicure and manicure EVERY month?!)
• Sharing (I would give a stranger my last hundred dollars if I thought they needed more than I did)
  
• conviviality (What the heck is this word? Hang on while I go look... okay, I made it a link so you can see too. That's my sharing nature coming out. :) Yeah, I like a good food filled get together every once in a while)
• Gentleness (I don't know about this one. I can be kind mean and rough. I wake my husband up biting his back fat. Hahahahaha he's gonna kill me if he reads this!)

DISLIKES

• Violence (Yeah in others. I DO NOT want to be bitten back.)
• Injustice (Yeah well who does?!)
• Brutishness (brut·ish (brtsh)adj.
  1. Of or characteristic of a brute.
  2. Crude in feeling or manner.
  3. Sensual; carnal.
  4. Rough; uncivilized (Not so true I find a certain amount of brutishness kinda sexy. LOL)
• Being a slave to fashion (Yeah, NOT going to spend all my money buying the latest fashions. Got leave some money for the Schwans man. Damn, their Confetti Cake ice cream is to die for)

Yes, I'm a Baptist and Baptists usually don't go for the whole astrology thing. But i've got to say it REALLY sounds like me. Hmmm...

Gone but not forgotten...

Halliburton aka "Hal" aka "Hally Pal" was run over by a car recently. My hubby is/was heartbroken. Although I had in the past blogged about him and showed him in not very nice light, I guess I miss him also. The dog was very annoying (i'm not really a dog person) but I am sorry he died in such a bad way. No, he didn't suffer, I don't believe. I think he went rather quickly. I took in a pound pup that I didn't want to go to his doggy death in the gas chamber and he dug a hole under the fence and my hubby's beloved "Hally Pal" got out and perished.

R.I.P. Hal